Friday, 3 December 2010

Gah. (a moan)

waiting room

I'm so totally in a funk. So many things right now it's all a bit much. D'Arcy has been coughing for a few days (a week?) and his teacher has been nagging me (via him) to go to the doctor. We did today, and of course they suspect whooping cough. He was an absolute champ when the pathology collector did the nasal swab, which meant that she got a good sample and maybe the result will be reliable. Of course this has sent me into a tailspin. Regular readers (are there any of you?) will know that D'Arcy's dad didn't want (amusing sidenote, I just repeatedly typed "wank" then, except that he does) to vaccinate him, and essentially bullied me into agreeing with that. So I am giving myself a hard time about that. E, on the other hand is fully vaccinated so he will have some protection I guess. Culture should be ready in a few days they reckon, so we'll know for sure then. If it's positive, then we all need preventative doses of anti-biotics. Bleh.

The other thing that is bothering me is that D's dad put his name down at a private (co-ed) school a couple of years ago. No consultation with me, of course, and I didn't really stand up to that either. I made it clear that I wasn't happy with it, but that's as far as it went. His name stayed on the list. It seemed for a while that it wasn't something I needed to worry about, but while we were in Hobart, I got a phone call from the ex, saying that he'd been offered a place for next year 2011. When we got home, we finally arranged to do the tour of the school, and actually it was pretty impressive. I've been trying to think about where D might go for high school. This looked like a good option, but the offer was for next year...I decided in the end that it would be okay for him to go there, but of course he's really unhappy about the move. He doesn't want to leave his mates for the last two years of primary school, which I can understand, I guess. Still, I feel like the bad one again. And now he'll miss at least a few days of school next week until we know the whooping cough status, and he's had a course of anti-biotics....

5 comments:

liz said...

I had whooping cough in 3rd grade (and I HAD been vaccinated!), and it was nasty, no mistake.

But I got better, and so will D. Get all his other shots as soon as this bout is over.

And re: schools, I have no advice. Do what feels best to you.

Ampersand Duck said...

What a shocker! I'm so sorry that D is a victim of his father's bull-headedness. Luckily it's something he can recover from...

Hope it's not too gruesome for all of you.

Mummy/Crit said...

Thanks lovelies! He's gone back to his dad's now, and he seems to be still taking the anti-biotics...I'm hoping the results of the culture are back tomorrow.

Michelle said...

Oh poo bum! What a horrid thing for D to have! Hope he's feeling more thoroughly chipper very soon.

BeckyBumbleFuck said...

Oh Dear, sounds upsetting...the whole lot of it. *hugs* There is certainly no end to a mother's guilt, although you do a fabulous job with your little lads. I wonder if there's any way to negotiate with the school to prolong his entrance for 2 years? At minimum it would made D feel/understand that you are on his side and will do everything in your power to make him happy. You never know...I asked 6 people who said "no" before I finally found one person to say "yes" about having Noel in the school orchestra....and she loves it! :-) Good luck, my Dear xo