tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post8655699778198601236..comments2023-10-25T00:35:02.426+11:00Comments on Mummy Developments: Grieving for the unborn childMummy/Crithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08353892248492164501noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post-66665116500567772712009-04-20T23:59:00.000+10:002009-04-20T23:59:00.000+10:00far out, Crit - I just stumbled upon this post. It...far out, Crit - I just stumbled upon this post. It's wonderful. <br /><br />People are always commenting how I have my pigeon pair and I do feel very lucky (I conceived easily and my only miscarriage was so early that there was never a heartbeat). I felt the pressure drop off when I had Laura because I had always wanted a girl and was a bit unsure about having a boy, as it was so unfamiliar to me, having had no brothers in the house as a kid. The joy I felt when I saw that I had a boy was a big surprise to me... but I have to admit part of it was relief that I now had one of each and might not have to go through labour again (I was wrecked at the time!!). <br /><br />However, as I thought a bit more about it as the months passed, I felt sad that I'd never be preganant again, never breastfeed again etc. I still feel that a bit but, like you, I just feel too old and lacking in patience and energy to do it all again! These two are more than enough of a handful - the upside being that they also provide enough moments of joy!!<br /><br />I'm now moving on to thikning about the distant future - wondering if these two will ever give me grandchildren! Laura is thinking of adopting, if anything, and who knows whether James will be capable of holding down a relationship.... his capacity for affection will most likely at least ensure the sowing of his seed, even if we don't know where ;-)Fihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02367065998848996624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post-89938749010282380102008-07-08T15:06:00.000+10:002008-07-08T15:06:00.000+10:00Oh yes yes yes..Oh yes yes yes..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post-23153159780873504452008-07-06T15:16:00.000+10:002008-07-06T15:16:00.000+10:00Hey folks, it's really helpful to know I'm not alo...Hey folks, it's really helpful to know I'm not alone with these thoughts and feelings, and good to hear some of your stories too.Mummy/Crithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08353892248492164501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post-23678232106691652692008-07-05T21:26:00.000+10:002008-07-05T21:26:00.000+10:00My daughter would have been a Tallullah. But very...My daughter would have been a Tallullah. <BR/><BR/>But very happily, one of my best friends is having her first child in October (at 37) and rang the other day to see if I minded if they used the name. I think it's great.<BR/><BR/>Hold those little boys tight<BR/><BR/>xxZoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01546885088503890394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post-1717522733582417672008-07-05T07:18:00.000+10:002008-07-05T07:18:00.000+10:00I'm definitely struggling with all of this, so you...I'm definitely struggling with all of this, so your post really spoke to me. 38 years old and 2 daughters...do we have another? Lots of mixed feelings about that, though I was fortunate to have a very easy last pregnancy (at 36). I'm so tired, much of the time, and eagerly look to toddler-free days, when things like eating at restaurants isn't a battle.<BR/><BR/>And yet...thinking that stage of my life is over, pregnancy and breastfeeding and tiny babies brings me a lot of sadness. And we'd be thrilled with a third girl, but knowing I'd never parent a boy? There's loss there, too.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00271432458696629945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post-75313254404631997682008-07-04T22:40:00.000+10:002008-07-04T22:40:00.000+10:00Such a LOVELY post. Thank you.Such a LOVELY post. Thank you.Ampersand Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12245377686193859488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7702079303574265259.post-12515126010816894272008-07-04T21:08:00.000+10:002008-07-04T21:08:00.000+10:00Oh Crit! I know so well what you are feeling. I st...Oh Crit! I know so well what you are feeling. I still get sad when I think of the girl's name we will never get to use. And if it's any consolation, I do have a girl already and I <EM>still</EM> feel that way.<BR/><BR/>The last part of your post makes me think of why my husband never went to preschool. He was the youngest of three and his mother didn't want to be parted from her last baby any more than she could help.<BR/><BR/>Parenting is so bittersweet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com